And She Said He’s Just a Friend

It depends. That’s MY answer to the age old question, can men and women be friends with their ex-lover? Anyone would say “no, absolutely not,” and then they would turn around and realize that they have one or two ex’s who they still keep in touch with. So why do we do it? If we’re happy in our new or current relationships, why do we keep in touch with our ex’s?

I’ve been told that one good reason for keeping in touch with an ex, while you’re in a committed relationship is because you may need an ego boost. Ex’s know how to say all the right things when you’re not together anymore. They can make you feel good. They let us know that we still got it!

Another reason for keeping in touch with an ex is maybe you’re just not as happy in that new/current relationship as you think. Maybe you realize your ex wasn’t so bad after all. It’s a way of keeping that door open, in case the situation you’re in now doesn’t work out. However, I know from personal experience that men and women can be friends if they were lovers first. You just have to practice common sense and set bounderies when dealing with your ex. It also helps if the attraction is dead as a doornail. I mean let’s face it, being friends with an ex that you are still attracted to is highly inappropriate, if you’re in a committed relationship. So let’s discuss. Are you alright with your partner being friends with their ex?