Pineapple Express?

My man told me that is his ex girl used to douche with pineapple juice so she could taste better. I felt like he was suggesting I try it. Should I?


In my research I couldn't find anything that says that you shouldn't, but I also didn't come across anything that says it's okay. Does Massengil or Summer's Eve have pineapple douche? Then I wouldn't do it. Pineapples have natural sugars in them that would probably turn your goodie into a yeast infection's playground. I'm going to go with no. Your man's ex is stupid. Don't invent when it comes to your vajayjay. Get some Norforms or Summer's Eve and drink the pineapple juice.

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Are You Ready to Learn?

So Brian McKnight wants to teach us about our pussies...hmmm. Please view the video before proceeding, but be careful. The lyrics are NSFW.

So is Brian McKnight on to something? Ladies, did you NOT know that “your pussy can squirt?” Does it really make a difference in the intensity of your orgasm or is it good for nothing more than making a mess and making your partner feel like Super Man? And yes! Most men (and women) will be incredibly turned on if they can make you squirt. It’s erotic and not incredibly hard to do. There’s a big debate in the medical field about female ejaculation (also known as squirting or gushing.) There are several myths surrounding the topic, but according to Lisa S. Lawless, R.M. Psychotherapist, ALL women are capable of it! It’s not something reserved for “special” sex kittens. So first thing you need to know is the fluid is NOT urine. It’s a clear liquid, similar to water and is typically odorless. For all the medical stats on the fluid, do some research on the internet. I want to talk about how to do it. First things first, many women feel like they have to pee when they’re ready to squirt so they hold back. You can release this fear by simply emptying your bladder before your sex session. The easiest way to do it is by G-spot stimulation. So here are some tips. After plenty of foreplay, get lubed up with a water based lube. Some oils are also good. Grape seed oil is great and it feels natural, but it is not condom safe, so choose the lube if you’re using condoms afterward. Insert your index finger about two knuckles deep and rub on the ridges on the front wall of her vagina. Use your index finger and do a “come here” motion with your finger. Pull on this spot slowing and firmly. This is her G-spot. It will feel like a ridged, walnut sized bump when it swells, which it will do once she’s aroused. More than rubbing it, you have to pull it. (This was news to me.) Eventually, you will have the urge to pee. Instead of holding back, bear down and let it go. Your orgasm should be mind blowing. Once you get used to doing it, you should be able to do it during intercourse as well. Practice, practice, practice is the key. So there you have it. Now Brian McKnight can’t teach you anything about your pussy that you don’t already know.

Too many???

           

What would you do in this scenario?  You and your partner are together long enough to have hit the sack quite a few times.  One evening, out of nowhere your partner ask, “How many people have you slept with?”  What do you say?  Do you fudge your number a little because there are a few that were a “mistake” and don’t count?  Do you ever reveal your true number?  Keep in mind, if you are not honest then expect the same from your partner.

Many people like to leave the past in the past.  Unless you’re a virgin or started having sex in your 20’s or 30’s your number may sound reasonable( 1?, 10?).  Some want an experienced partner, others may feel too many partners’ equals ho.   So, what sex partner number are you willing to accept?  When is it just too many?

                                                               

Miss New Booty

Hey Stiletto Girls,

Me and my man have been together for seven years and in an effort to spice up our sex life, he wants us to try having anal sex. I'm so afraid. I heard it hurts at first.

Miss New Booty

Dear Miss New Booty,

Didn't vaginal sex hurt at first, but it feels good now, right? Anal sex, even though still very much taboo, can be enjoyable if you are relaxed and lubed up well. I recommend trying it while the two of you are alone, either at home or in a hotel room. Maybe have a glass of wine or two and go slow! After you are all lubed up, try lying on your side, as a starting position. Next, you back up on to him, instead of him ramming into you. The key is to remain relaxed. The most important tip I can give you is NEVER go from anal sex to vaginal sex without having your partner clean up first. To reduce infection, use a condom even though you've been together forever. A penis may be too large to start with. Try a finger first, then two. You can even try anal beads or a butt plug to get you ready for anal play. You can try it and if you don't like it, you never have to do it again. I'm sure he loves you enough to respect that.

Stiletto Girls

Sex Tape Drama?

Well, well, another celebrity sex tape as surfaced, and as always, the media has to act surprised and shocked.  Apparently, Tyson Beckford was video chatting with a model chic, and she taped him masturbating.  So, for her to tape him either he looked REALLY good or REALLY bad only time will tell.  We will keep an eye out.  Speaking of celebrity sex tapes has anyone seen Kim K and Ray J's tape?  Yeah it has been out for a while, but there are a few things that are a little bothersome.  Is it me or does Ray J get jerked on his dick suck?  Then again why would you let Ray J smack his penis on your face like that? I'm just sayin'.....  Let me know your thoughts on ANY celeb sex tape you’ve come across.

Speaking of sex tapes, we all have made a few….uh right? Anyway, for those of us that indulge, what happens if things don’t quite work out?  Do you ask for the tape/file back?  I say, ALWAYS know where to access it and once you find it destroy, and delete!   What do you think?  Let your ex have it or destroy the bitch? 

Remember you can ALWAYS remain anonymous when responding.  Thanks!

Finding the Fire and Desire

For those of us who have been in marriages or long term relationships, we often wonder, where did the fire go? Maybe we're too busy with work or busy wrestling the kids to sleep, but sex sometimes just becomes another chore on the to-do list. So what do we do to get out of the sex rut?


Even if it's just once a month, do something, as a couple that is outside of your normal sex session. How about trying an adult paint box? Paint each other using edible body paint. Of course sex toys are always fun. Maybe some role playing will spice things up in the bedroom. She's the patient and you're her horny gynecologist, checking to make sure that it's all good down there. How about making a video; your very own porno and then have more fun watching it together! How about installing a pole in the bedroom? If you take a sexy pole dancing class or two and you can pull it off, he'll be impressed and horny! Maybe it's something as simple as meeting your man at the door with some hot new lingerie on (don't forget the stilettos.) You have on your new crotchless body stocking and you serve him dinner and let him have you for dessert-with your body stocking or new lingerie still on! Whoa! You can let him take it off for round two. The point is, there is no excuse for boring sex. If you had exciting sex once upon a time, you can have it again. If you have ideas for spicing things up in the bedroom, send us an email at Stilettogirls@inbox.com or leave us a comment.

Too Small to Stay?

Dear Stiletto Ladies,

Three months ago, I felt like I met the man of my dreams.  He is attentive to my needs, opens my door, and pays for EVERYTHING!  He even took me home to meet his mother.  I was literally in heaven until a few days ago.  We finally decided to jump things off in the bedroom.  This is when I was abruptly thrown back to earth.  I will cut right to the chase, he has a small penis.  It’s really tiny, like Smurf small.   I even gave it a few go rounds thinking it was just his nerves.  It got worse each time….he seems to be trying so hard.  I don’t have the heart to tell him, his sex is bad.  I really need to get my rocks off too; I don’t know what to do.  Should I stay or leave?

Smurf love

Dear Smurf love,

Your situation is definitely a tough one.  The truth of the matter is, you cannot try to have chemistry.  Either it is there or not, especially sexually chemistry.  No matter how hard you squeeze down there, you will continue to be frustrated.  Yes, we can talk about toys, and the cock ring, but those should be used to enhance the sex not create.  Sex is essential for bonding with your love; you don’t want to be detached.  Just leave the man alone.  Maybe someone else will be a better fit for him.  As far as telling him why, I would just say the chemistry wasn’t there. No need to bruise the man’s ego.   Don’t let too much time pass, as it will become harder to tell him each day.  Plus, you can always keep him as a good friend, if you cut ties on a positive note.  Just know when Mr. Right comes along, sexually chemistry will go with the package.  Leave the Smurfs to Smurfette, and you keep looking for your man!

The Shoe Chronicles

When asked to do a blog about sex, relationships, and everything in between I was elated!  For the past 20 plus years, I have been submerged in sex, health, and relationships.  Especially when I heard the name?!  I thought WOW that is too sexy!  Once we began to discuss the blog and topics, I definitely wanted shoes into the equation.  Any and every woman's love! Tell me, what goes good with sex besides chocolate?....Shoes, hot sexy, keep them on while your bent over stiletto pumps!

 

So, what can we expect to see out there this summer?  It looks like metallic and neon are making a comeback. I think the last neon apparel I had was some neon biking shorts, and a Columbia jacket!   Check out these 2012 spring/summer picks!

These John Paul Gautier boots make me so weak.  JPG was on top of it this year!  No heel?! sick!

Prada's newest shoe is hot.  Please ladies, rock the hell out of this shoe! How would you rock it? Short mini?.....

So ladies, please, do you feel having a mean shoe game is a must?

Christian Louboutin "Sex" Stilettos

I have been asked, "Where did you get the name for your blog?" Well, when I was deciding on a name I knew I wanted something cute and catchy. If you know my last name, you'll get the "Secrets" reference. "Sex" is the reason I started this. A lot of my friends ask for my advice on their relationships and I love to give it. The last word was trickier. I had to pick an "S" word that was the epitome of sexy. Something that represented myself, as well as other women who feel sexy in their skin. That's when "Stilettos" came to me. Stilettos are damn sexy and if you have a shoe fetish like me, then you get it! You also get why my very first post was about men who wear them! Everyone loves them! Unless you have them on too long, in which case you will definitely hate them.

However, as I was surfing the web for shoes to satisfy my fetish, I came across these BAD Christian Louboutins. "Sex" is the name of the shoe and as you can see they actually spell out the word SEX. They're not something you want to wear to the office, but they're sexy as hell and they've been worn by celebrities, Kate Upton and Katy Perry.

So ladies, if you have $1,400 to burn, I would recommend these as my pick of the week....because nothing says, "Secrets, Sex and Stilettos" better than that.

Smells Like Grown Woman Spirit

I really hate the way I smell down there. It's not BAD, but I notice it. My man says he likes it and he goes down on me often. I never douched. Should try it?

QT

QT,

Each woman has a natural aroma that more than likely turns their partner on, but yet this is something that we worry about. I usually just shower right before I know I'm about to have a session. A shower together is always fun as well. Douching is fine, but not too often. I’ve heard about a product called Norforms.  When I was introduced to them I was told "They make you taste better." While, that's not actually on the box, I've been told it leaves you with no taste. No taste or natural taste, I guess it's your man's preference and whatever makes you comfortable. Of course a natural remedy is eating sweet fruits such as pineapples, mangos and cantaloupes to taste yummy and avoid asparagus, onions and garlic the day of the big session. Try different things and see what  works best for you.

My Girl Got a Girlfriend

Cmsecrets

I was seeing this girl I really liked for a few months. She told me she was bisexual and I was ok with that. Two weeks ago she had a female friend from her hometown come visit her. During the four days her friend was in town, she didn't introduce her to me and she only called me twice. I asked her if i could take them to dinner and she said no because they don't hang out together often. We only live a few miles apart I could have come over. She says they're just friends but I don't believe her. Anyway, I cut her off and she can't understand why. Am I wrong?

Tony

Tony,

You cut her off because you already know what I'm about to tell you. She's most likely sleeping with this lady and it would be awkward to have the two of you around each other. Maybe they didn't want you to think you could join in. Maybe she didn’t want to woman to know about you. To answer your question, no, I don't think you did anything wrong. If you've been honest with her and you feel she's lying to you then she's not serious about you. I mean she couldn't let you hang out with them once? Every woman wants to be taken to dinner. Something about it doesn't seem right and I wouldn't deal with her until she comes clean about it.

Cmsecrets

Family Friends

Dear Stiletto Ladies,
 
My BFF and I have been friends for over 20 years!  Over the years, I have looked forward to going to family cookouts, reunions, etc. The only reason is for her fine ass cousin. There is definitely an attraction there. We just don't go there for friendships sake.
 
The only problem is I think I'm in love. I want to just have him taste my birthday cake one time....I feel as though I'm a grown ass woman, why not? If it works out great! If not, at least I can just let this feeling go.
 
So, do you think I should give it a try or leave it alone?  How should I break this to my BFF?  I don't want to risk our friendship, but I also want to be happy.
 
Lady in Red

 
Dear Lady in Red,
 
Dating your BFF’s relative can have both positive and negative outcomes. First, I always suggest when dating get a few referrals. Yes, referrals can give you some major insight into his/her family life, history, and all the essentials.
 
The only drawback, what if it doesn’t work out?!  You will still have to see the deflated lover. Possibly even go to his wedding in the future!  All I'm saying is choose wisely. Why not keep the energy flowing and just let it be?  Plus, he may not know how to swing that thing!  If anything, let him take the first steps.
 
Most importantly, good friends are hard to find.   That's your BFF for a reason!  Talk to her and be straight up, see how she feels. Respect the game, what is yours will be yours regardless!
 
Stiletto Girls
 
 
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