Family Friends

Dear Stiletto Ladies,
 
My BFF and I have been friends for over 20 years!  Over the years, I have looked forward to going to family cookouts, reunions, etc. The only reason is for her fine ass cousin. There is definitely an attraction there. We just don't go there for friendships sake.
 
The only problem is I think I'm in love. I want to just have him taste my birthday cake one time....I feel as though I'm a grown ass woman, why not? If it works out great! If not, at least I can just let this feeling go.
 
So, do you think I should give it a try or leave it alone?  How should I break this to my BFF?  I don't want to risk our friendship, but I also want to be happy.
 
Lady in Red

 
Dear Lady in Red,
 
Dating your BFF’s relative can have both positive and negative outcomes. First, I always suggest when dating get a few referrals. Yes, referrals can give you some major insight into his/her family life, history, and all the essentials.
 
The only drawback, what if it doesn’t work out?!  You will still have to see the deflated lover. Possibly even go to his wedding in the future!  All I'm saying is choose wisely. Why not keep the energy flowing and just let it be?  Plus, he may not know how to swing that thing!  If anything, let him take the first steps.
 
Most importantly, good friends are hard to find.   That's your BFF for a reason!  Talk to her and be straight up, see how she feels. Respect the game, what is yours will be yours regardless!
 
Stiletto Girls
 
 
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