Dear Stiletto Girls,
I’m in my late 20’s and I’ve been dating a guy who I really
like for about five months now. Everything is good, we go out, he treats me
nice, he has a good job. He does have a three year old son from a previous
relationship and I don’t have any kids. The problem is that my mother can’t
stand him! She said she doesn’t like that he has as child already and it’s
something about him that she doesn’t trust. Now I’m paranoid all the time. What
should I do?
Mama’s Girl
Mama’s Girl,
Sounds like you’re in a good relationship that works for
YOU. The fact that he has a child doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It will give
you the opportunity to see how he is as a parent, if you choose to have
children with him. Your mother may just be feeling left out. Is she used to you
coming to her for everything and now you go to him? Maybe she doesn’t think he’s
good enough for you, which is common with parents. If that’s the case, no one
is probably going to be good enough for you in her eyes. I would keep my eyes
peels for any untrustworthy activity, but try to relax in the in relationship.
It’s still early and there’s a lot to learn about each other. Don’t let mom
ruin it for you. There may be a valuable learning experience somewhere in it
for you. He could be the man of your dreams or he may break your heart. Either
way, you will hopefully learn and grow as a woman. Whatever happens, it’s your
life to live, not your mother’s.
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3 comments:
I had a MaMa's girl, she didnt like me. So I just killed her with kindness until she broke! He will hang in there if he really loves you.
I met a guy a few years ago who has two children from a previous marriage, and my mother was concerned a well.shoot I was concerned and was going to leave him alone, but Luke the previous statement said, I was able to see how good of a father he is and I know that when we have a child he will love that child to death..I'm glad I have him a chance because my mom lives him and were getting married.
I'm the one with a child from a previous relationship in my current relationship, he has said it was different for him, but loves how I am as a mother, he even gives me advice from his point of view. If YOU think he is worth your time, then do what YOU want. Your the only person who can give yourself the best advice honestly. At the end of the day, your gonna do what you feel is right. Your mother (and family) needs to respect that.
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