Too Small to Stay?

Dear Stiletto Ladies,

Three months ago, I felt like I met the man of my dreams.  He is attentive to my needs, opens my door, and pays for EVERYTHING!  He even took me home to meet his mother.  I was literally in heaven until a few days ago.  We finally decided to jump things off in the bedroom.  This is when I was abruptly thrown back to earth.  I will cut right to the chase, he has a small penis.  It’s really tiny, like Smurf small.   I even gave it a few go rounds thinking it was just his nerves.  It got worse each time….he seems to be trying so hard.  I don’t have the heart to tell him, his sex is bad.  I really need to get my rocks off too; I don’t know what to do.  Should I stay or leave?

Smurf love

Dear Smurf love,

Your situation is definitely a tough one.  The truth of the matter is, you cannot try to have chemistry.  Either it is there or not, especially sexually chemistry.  No matter how hard you squeeze down there, you will continue to be frustrated.  Yes, we can talk about toys, and the cock ring, but those should be used to enhance the sex not create.  Sex is essential for bonding with your love; you don’t want to be detached.  Just leave the man alone.  Maybe someone else will be a better fit for him.  As far as telling him why, I would just say the chemistry wasn’t there. No need to bruise the man’s ego.   Don’t let too much time pass, as it will become harder to tell him each day.  Plus, you can always keep him as a good friend, if you cut ties on a positive note.  Just know when Mr. Right comes along, sexually chemistry will go with the package.  Leave the Smurfs to Smurfette, and you keep looking for your man!