Dream Lover, Come Rescue Me

Have you ever been in the middle of sex session and your mind wandered someplace else? Maybe you were making love on a warm sunny beach, where the sand feels like baby powder, instead of staring at the four walls of your bedroom. What if you’re imagining something erotic that you wouldn’t normally engage in, like a threesome with your partner or role playing? This kind of fantasizing can be helpful and simulating during sex. But what if your thoughts wander to SOMEONE else during sex? Is that acceptable?  I’m all for fantasizing during sex, but if you’re imagining the way your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend did it, well, then you might as well be cheating. If you consistently fantasize about having sex with another person, that’s a clear sign that you are having some relationship trouble, in my opinion. If you’re single and engaging in sex, I suppose you can fantasize about whomever the hell you want to, which is a plus to being single. However, in a committed relationship, what’s acceptable and what isn’t? So, I ask you, Secrets, Sex and Stiletto readers….If you're sexually faithful to your partner, do you think it's okay to fantasize about having sex with someone else?