Let's Talk: Make-up Sex

Why is make-up sex so magically delicious?  You have a fight, then anger and testosterone are flowing through you. What do you do with all that energy? The passion and anger that arises during an argument doesn't automatically dissipate. The tension intensifies with every scream and shout, then finally recedes after a mind blowing orgasm. Make-up sex is one of the most significant sexual experiences a person can have in their life. It’s right up there with first time sex and birthday sex.

 For some reason, make-up sex is just better. Maybe you’re showing your appreciation since both of you could drop or suspend the issue that was the cause of the argument. Even if it was unconscious, I’m pretty sure I’ve started an argument just to get to that end result. So, I’m not the only one, right? Have you ever started an argument just to have great make up sex?

Jennifer Lopez - Booty ft. Iggy Azalea

Big Booty Sunday! Does anyone else feel like they're going have a orgasmic epileptic seizure from watching this video? Guess we can thank Hype Williams for that. J. Lo and Iggy really know how "werk" that ass. I wonder how long it took J. Lo to wash the oil off her body. Oh well....Enjoy!

Fifty Shades Of Grey - Official Trailer (HD)

I absolutely CAN NOT wait!

Advice-Boys Night Out

Thanks for taking the time to read my email. My fiance and I are getting married in a few weeks and his bachelor party is right around the corner. His best man, who is our friend from college is a notorious male hoe. I know there will be strippers there and all types of unsavory characters. I trust my man, but I don't trust him, you know what I'm saying? Should I put my foot down about there not being any strippers at his party?

Jessica Rabbit

Dear Miss Rabbit,

So, first off you have a right to be jealous, especially if your man gave you a reason in the past not to trust him, but if he hasn't, I think you're trippin' over nothing. I don't think putting your foot down about the strippers is going to help. It might turn into a big fight about trust and if you want to take that on prior to your wedding-go right ahead. Have a talk with the groom....not an argument. Just ask him questions about his plans and expectations for that night and read his reactions. I'm sure you know him well enough to see when he's BSing you. You're marrying him, so you have no choice but to trust him. If he'll cheat at the bachelor party, he'll after the honeymoon as well. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If you knows he's a cheater, you have bigger problems than the bachelor party. If worse comes to worse you can always figure out a way to crash the party (Please don't do that.) Good luck!

Advice-The Super Snooper

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Dear Stiletto Girls,

I was reading your post yesterday about emotional affairs and I have a situation that I could use your advice on. My boyfriend of four years was using my computer one day recently and left his email opened. I went through it and found that he was sending inappropriate emails to about 3 of his ex’s. Nothing that said he cheated, just flirting and it really bothered me. These are all women that I know or know of. The only thing is the emails are from two years ago when we hit a rough patch. I don’t see anything recent. I haven’t said anything because I don’t want him to know, but I’m insecure now. How do I know that every time we go through something he won’t look to these women or any one else! 

Sha

Dear Sha,

If it’s really driving you crazy and you need his reassurance, you can confront him, but because it was a while ago, during a time when even you admit that you were having problems, you should let it go. You have to remember that men need attention and affection just like women do. If you weren’t admiring and adoring him, he was looking for someone else to do it. It probably was completely based on your actions towards him. If you can’t let it go, you’ll have to come clean. That will just be one more secret in your relationship and you don’t want that. Hopefully, he’ll give you the reassurance that you need. Good luck!

Advice-Each One Teach One

Stiletto girls,

My girl is a little inexperienced and the head is a little wack. She tries to do it and I always stop her. How can I give her tips without pissing her off?

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Good Great sex is the cornerstone to a lasting relationship. Of course, monogamy, love, support, trust, blah, blah are extremely important to a relationship, but lets face it, all the sugary stuff is lost without some spice. My advice is to get her to watch a p0rno or two with you. You can point out things (gently) as you watch it like, “that looks cool, we should try that, I would like that, would you like that?” etc., etc. You can also guide her while she’s doing it, instead of stopping her. Girls usually want to know how to give better head. She might enjoy learning the right way to please you just as much as you.

Advice-The Marrying Man

Stiletto girls,

Me and my man have been together for a little over a year. I know he loves me and wants to marry me, which is the good news. He’s currently separated from his wife, soon to be ex wife, but when I ask him about when he plans on divorcing her, he seems so casual about it. I really want him to be divorced before we move any further. What should I do?

Toya

Dear Toya,

 

I think he HAS to be divorced before you can move any further. I mean, the two of you can live together, buy property together etc., but just know that if anything ever happens to him, that house belongs to you and her. She will get whatever benefits he receives in the event of something tragic happening. That aside, just know that he can NEVER legally marry you while he’s still married to her. I know divorces are expensive and a hassle, especially if she’s not trying to divorce him, but he needs to bite the bullet and sign the papers. You may have to put your foot down about it because you’ll never completely have him if he’s still married to her.

In Other Sex News

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 We can add Iggy Azalea to that long list of celebrities who got caught out there with their pants down-literally. So her ex-boo, rapper nobody, Hefe Wine, wants to ride her fame wave by releasing a sex tape that they made when she was a nobody too. According to TMZ, power p0rn distributors, Vivid Entertainment is all over this like a dog with a bone. Even after Iggy’s lawyer’s sent them a letter saying they couldn’t use the name Iggy, they still are trying to figure out how to market this alleged sex tape. TMZ states, a source close to her says she feels betrayed by her ex. DUH! Ok, Bad Girl 101-NEVER let the dude keep the tape!! What was she thinking? Hey, you never know….look at what the sex tape did for Kim and Mimi. This could be the best thing that happened to Iggy’s career! We've discussed this before, but it's worth revisiting. What do you guys think about sex tapes? Hot & steamy or embarrassing and risky?

A Little Flirtin' Never Hurt Nobody

The Emotional Affair

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You’re married or in a committed relationship and things have hit a brick wall. You find a friend, co-worker or ex to flirt with. You get a high when they compliment you, you get a text or picture from them or you share a coffee break together. Are you wrong? It depends. A little flirting might not be a big deal, but what will that eventually lead to? These types of relationships give you something that you’re not getting in your relationship with your partner-appreciation, admiration, maybe just an outlet, but most people think if nothing physical is going on, then they’re not cheating. Here are a few signs that you’re playing with fire:

1.     You talk to this person about your partner’s shortcomings

2.     You share intimate details about your feelings, hopes, dreams that you would normally share with your partner.

3.     You talk to this person about sex or your sexual desires

4.     You’re hiding your relationship with this person from your partner

5.     YOU FEEL GUILTY!

If you feel guilty about your actions, you’re wrong. What do you think SSS family? Is an emotional connection with someone else considered cheating?

Guess Who's Bizzzzack!

Sometimes life just happens and plans get derailed. We took a break from blogging, but we're back! Secrets, Sex and Stilettos is back with new articles, advice, sensual product reviews, hot stilettos and more! Shout out to all the fans, everyone who sent a text, email or simply asked when we were coming back. Thanks for the love! As always, feel free to send us topic ideas, advice question or comment. Thanks for reading and keep it sexy!

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