Advice-The Super Snooper

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Dear Stiletto Girls,

I was reading your post yesterday about emotional affairs and I have a situation that I could use your advice on. My boyfriend of four years was using my computer one day recently and left his email opened. I went through it and found that he was sending inappropriate emails to about 3 of his ex’s. Nothing that said he cheated, just flirting and it really bothered me. These are all women that I know or know of. The only thing is the emails are from two years ago when we hit a rough patch. I don’t see anything recent. I haven’t said anything because I don’t want him to know, but I’m insecure now. How do I know that every time we go through something he won’t look to these women or any one else! 

Sha

Dear Sha,

If it’s really driving you crazy and you need his reassurance, you can confront him, but because it was a while ago, during a time when even you admit that you were having problems, you should let it go. You have to remember that men need attention and affection just like women do. If you weren’t admiring and adoring him, he was looking for someone else to do it. It probably was completely based on your actions towards him. If you can’t let it go, you’ll have to come clean. That will just be one more secret in your relationship and you don’t want that. Hopefully, he’ll give you the reassurance that you need. Good luck!